Navigating the Frequency of Authenticity: Lessons from Syntropy and Sovereignty

Through the lens of syntropy and sovereignty, this blog explores how tuning into our natural frequency leads to authentic living, emotional healing, and deeper self-expression.

Greetings from my emerging Centre for Syntropy, “Shambhala Bali” and Yay, to writing today!

I used to use words like ‘authenticity’, 'empathy,' and even 'sovereignty' without comprehending their true meaning. Once I started re-enabling my nature I started to realize how out of tune I was—from my own feelings, from others, and especially from my own sense of 'sovereignty'. Turns out that 10 years later, navigating in a natural frequency by using Syntropy is well beyond the already old "new cage" wooo wooo movement…and it’s a real (and sometimes awkward) practice. So yay to exploring what actually happens when we dare to live at our own, messy, unpolished, very human Frequency of Syntropic Authenticity.

Confessions of a Recovering ‘People Pleaser’: Rediscovering Sovereignty

You are probably one of the people who know this scene: conversation is swirling, opinions flying, and suddenly, you're shrinking inside, feeling the urge to smooth things over, to keep the peace, to make sure everyone’s comfortable. For years, I unconsciously thought this was being “nice and effective.” This was me abandoning my own sovereignty in favor of managing the whole table’s mood or the direction of conversations. I was patterned with this as the 4th son in my family and as little Ketut I became predipositioned to regulate others. This stemmed directly from the "Premature Separation from Love" (1 of the 5 primary imprints), and so I formed what I call a predisposition of "Overcaring" expressed in more common terms as the other buzz word "co-dependence" with the Primary She (my beautiful and now wise Mother). This is not intended as a sharing from my Sovereignty Language class, although the Awakening Sovereignty Language classes were definitely to best program I have created, but let me say that any word operating as a "noun" (like co-dependence) makes it non-living and not relatable from your Nature (your cells) and people remain "stuck" on explaining the meaning of the word through metaphors, analogies and so forth. These buzz words have "meaning" as to what they "mean" but pretty much all nouns are stilled-verbs and therefore create stagnance as they (by being a noun) stop the flow of living (verbed) languaging, and then the archetypal nature of our human consciousness inherently operating on a living flow of images has no ability to deeply feel the truth in the words (nouns) used because each noun has a "definition" of its own. This is huge and fantasy "deep" proverbial "rabbit hole" to navigate. Maybe you (your cells) feel attracted and you want to receive more around Syntropic relating to Languageing, I welcome all your questions as always, I have a syntropic AMA "policy"!

Back to my overcaring program and how it dispositioned me from being connected to my Self and my inner Sovereignty. As I’ve learned now, being (or better put, FEELING) Sovereign is about me owning my responses, without feeling responsible for how everyone else feels. I feared doing that in the beginning because I felt I was instead becoming cold and detached (empathy was not yet understood). By being really real with what was really going on in my thoughts, I learned to recognize that I was not authentically choosing my words or actions, but I was staying in familiar comfort, seeking to manage and thus control the emotional weather for everyone else. Authentic Self Expression (through feeling-based relating) means living in alignment with the truth of our cells, and this increases our sense of well-being and (initially) reduces internal conflict. When humans willfully choose to Re-enable their Nature, internal conflict becomes leveraged to become an opportunity for growth and having Freedom around the patterns of re-acting, managing, controlling, and in my case, overcaring. This all seems so obvious when we read it, but the patterns underlying this behavior kept me from changing my navigation. In my practice and training to get out of humandamage, I was training my cells how to "receive" and getting out of trying to make suggestions or constantly offering solutions. I was remembering how to navigate in a natural frequency and staying in connection with my self and my sovereignty (Nature); while not denying others their own agency.

What I’ve come to realize is that emotional "triggers" (or re-actions; neurological associative memory getting triggered and "acting again" as a response activation to what our cells are able to associate someone else's expression with. Re-actions are all based on past imprinting and such reactions inhibit our ability to be simply present and receive), triggers, through the Lens of Syntropy are actually purposeful re-actions serving a function with purpose and can be seen as invitations or opportunities from our cells, to question the "why" am I reacting so strongly to this, why am I not free to simply receive this? Every time I used to feel that familiar pang—maybe someone disagrees with me, or I sense disappointment in their eyes—I had a new chance to question the function and instead of slipping into old patterns of reactivity (or, let’s be honest, good old-fashioned victim mode), I paused and ask: Is what I am feeling authentically mine? Does this story belong in my cells? Or is someone (unconsciously) projecting onto me, or contracting me?

Now the English language is a noun based, contract based language, and this can become much more apparent when we start observing human interactions, especially in more "heated" or manipulative conversations. From observation, when people haven't resolved their unresolved emotional imprinting from the past, everything the hear, say and think passes through that filter. That coupled with the fact that we were never taught how to relate from our feelings and give wording to the real thoughts that are happening, humanity of the western mind is programmed with a defunked, incomplete repertoire of language which does still not include or promote self-sovereign navigation, by simply being real with what is really going on in our thoughts. Well, here is one for the Syntropic Saying Dictionary; revealing is healing. Having been confounded in the language that we use to express our cells is quite the realisation to deal with, fortunately Syntropy and all the natural comprehension on how to navigate in a natural frequency are all still stored in your original Human Blueprint, we all have only been programmed to perceive, speak, relate and think in ways that are limiting, simply because of the noun-based focus of (in this case English) which renders all communication "conceptual" and does not create allowance for the wisdom of the cells through feelings to become translated properly.

For me, it's been so easy to fall into patterns of reactivity because they were part of my programmed mindset. Sometimes though, I still catch myself defending old patterns, like trying to justify why I didn’t speak up or why I over-explained myself. What offered me a path to pause and later emotional freedom from those re-actions was in asking another key question: Am I acting from my true love-based sovereignty, or am I just defending an old story? When we think about it, Authenticity (be-ing authentic) is the purest or "highest" emotional frequency, even surpassing Love (which is your cells expressing spurts of feelings of yay when witnessing beauty), being fully authentic is naturally linked to greater psychological health and wellbeing because when we choose to respond from our authentic self and we don't forego our truth, we can feel more grounded—and we are not operating in a frequency of performing for approval or avoiding "fall out". Of course, using Syntropy, we can ask ourselves the question "why" I am reacting or why I don't feel nice about what he/she/they are saying? (btw they is a contract that doesn't exist just like "we", which is most often used as an (unconscious) avoidance and leverage strategy to contract others into their will). The Syntropic Saying Dictionary has this to offer: Why. The answer to the question of why, in human ecology, is always Human Damage. Either externally or internally, and benefits being followed up with: do I/you want to keep doing it like this?, because the only way out of human damage (navigating in an unnatural frequency) is to choose to get out of it, which ironically requires you to get into it, bring full awareness to it and feeling-based relating around it is key to discovering what the original "story" was all about and that in conjunction with the question why is always that you were not at fault but somebody else (a primary caretaker) did not uphold the natural order but instead violated your sovereignty.

One of the biggest shifts in studying Sovereignty for years has been learning that I can only honor my own sovereignty by respecting and seeing everyone else as sovereign too. This was a big perspective changer that I only remembered because of my deep search for answers through indigenous wisdom traditions of the Waitaha Nation and many others Indigenous perspectives I gained access to through my re-entry and being sung back into the Nation of Peace. As I practice knowing and trusting that others have their own wisdom and timing and I surrender to God what is not mine, I notice that the urge to rescue or manage others fades and instead, I become more of a peaceful and present observer, as some have said a loving deep listener, able to hold space for differing perspectives without feeling threatened or responsible for their navigation through it or the outcome of the story they are sharing.

Over the past 10 odd years, training in this practice of Re-enabling my Nature hasn’t always smooth. Sometimes, people expressed disappointment or a wish I’d responded differently. In those moments, I got to remind myself again: I am training myself in receiving and is this mine? Is this my responsibility? Or am I being contracted? Often, the answer is simply no. I can acknowledge their feelings, thank them for sharing, and let them navigate their own experience. Becoming more and more authentic and living free of those old patterns of "being responsible" for other people's feelings or perspectives. As a syntropic by-product of being closer in connection with my authentic yay and or nay, has greatly reduced my (unconscious) levels of stress and feelings of my need for overcaring, rescuing, saving, or "healing" people. That was all then still connected in with the Trauma Triangle that I was myself still stuck in and knew nothing about. I showed up as the victim, pointed at perpetrators, always keen to save a she from worry, hurt, or challenges, and not having access to this space of being the sovereign peaceful observer, free of triangulating, free of patterned responses stemming from Primary Imprinting. All the while in choosing to re-enable my Nature I have been recultivating and strengthening my internal sense of self sovereignty that often is just felt as a lifeway of peacefulness, lovingkindness and in reflection of this last year; Grace. But grace is something we can only receive from God, and is, I feel, another great Syntropic byproduct of choosing to re-enable one's Nature. Grace you can't produce on your own, it is the natural state of being you can re-turn to by undoing one story after the other and freeing your cells from "the need" to react and practicing your cells in receiving is a wonder full pathway back Home, to Self, wholeness and being in true alignment and authentically in tune with your Yay and your nay and the freedom to not only feel the yay and or the nay, but to be free to express them openly without story, the need for justification, or the obligatory frequency of needing to explain your nay.

The Awkward Magic of Letting People Own Their Experience

Let’s be honest: there’s something strangely freeing about realizing that other people’s experiences aren’t yours to fix. For long, I thought being a good friend, partner, or even just a decent human meant jumping in to solve, soothe, or carry the emotional weight for others. When I started seeing human Nature through the lens of Syntropy and saw Human Nature as natural self sovereignty, I noticed a subtle yet beautiful shift in my mindsong. The more I honored myself in the knowing of the power held in simply receiving, the more I saw the magic in letting people own their own stories—even when it felt awkward or uncomfortable.

Here’s the thing: it’s not yours. That’s a mantra I keep coming back to. When I got out of feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, I felt lighter, more present, and honestly, more myself, and with that I arrived in Freedom (the Domain of the Free) wherefrom I was able to recognize where my responsibility ends and someone else’s begins.

As I mentioned, one of the most powerful practices I’ve learned is what I call receiving. This is the heart of what I think of as syntropic empathy. Instead of jumping in to fix, I practice just being there. Witnessing, listening, and letting the other person have their experience. This kind of mindful witnessing helps clear emotional blocks, making it easier for both people to stay grounded and able to feel what is authentic. It’s not always easy. Sometimes, it feels like standing in a downpour with no umbrella, except the “rain” is someone else’s emotions pouring out. My old impulse was to scramble for cover or try to hand them an umbrella. Now, I try to just stand there, present, and let the rain fall where it needs to. Yay! In my private client work my role and function is to offer a Syntropic perspective through articulating my innerstandings of sovereignty and therefore drawing out the contrast so regenerative steps on the path of self healing becoming perceivable again. This reminds me of a sharing from my Waitaha Grandmothers about the Wananga of Love.

Remembering Syntropy and the various virtues that this strategy is woven with is paramount to making any deep sense out of Sovereignty or any of the Self Love Schools of thought.

Without remembering how Life functions and what its’ strategy is and namely in that remembering that we Humans are alive and of Life, made from Life, and an intimate intimate part of the greater Web of Life; Without remembering this, the slumber just lingers on and nothing much majorly is changing in the way a human Life is being navigated.

This then is equally a Life full of suffering, full of regrets, hopes, dreams, wishes for the future, and a deep sadness that wants to be heard, acknowledged, accepted, and ex-pressed from the body.

So the key teaching of Syntropy in the individuals’ journey of re-member-ing all fragmented aspects of its Self is restoring the individuals' intimate, innate connection to Mother Earth, Life from within to without.

Of course, in our 3D real-life interactions, there are those moments when someone comes at you with the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” brigade. You know the type: “You should have said this,” or “If only you’d done that.” It’s still tempting to get defensive or to start rewriting my actions in my head when this happens (so there is still an old pattern not fully brought to light). And that then is where the real work begins, again and again and again. I call it "Finding Freedom", a part of self still responsible for reverberating an old story throughout my mindgardens. In the moment itself, as I pause to take note that I am being offered to contract into their story of what I coulda, shoulda, woulda have done, I remind myself not to proceed in re-activating any old rules from what I call “Froopyland”—that imaginary place where everyone’s expectations and guilt trips live. I don’t have to board their guilt train or become contracted into their story either. Instead, I listen, acknowledge their feelings, and gently hand the responsibility back. “I hear you. Thank you for sharing how you are feeling." I usually pause a bit and then gently say "yay...”

Yas! (duh!) Living in Syntropy takes practice—sometimes daily, sometimes minute by minute. The urge to step in, to fix, to absorb someone else’s discomfort is strong, especially if you grew up in a culture or family where that was the norm, is also but one form of navigating outside of being truly authentic and real. There are many unnatural patterns of relating and they express themselves in frequencies of thought as subservience, obligatory frequencies, and good old pleasing (the "be a good girl program"). Judgment too, being judgmental all the time, wow, that's a big one. I could write you a big fat list of course, but all of the simply exist when we are still tapped into the Triangle of Trauma and have not yet returned to the Trinity of Syntropy. So yeah, every time I sense that old urge and love me for "not having to do it like that anymore" I notice a little more space inside me. A little more sovereignty. And, interestingly, the people around me start to step into their own power, too. It’s awkward. It’s magical. And it’s the real work of living at the frequency of Syntropic Authenticity.

Healing Old Patterns: Choosing Love Over Scripts

There’s something quietly revolutionary about realizing that our emotional triggers aren’t just signs we’re “broken,” but are emotional indicators, performing their function with purpose, that something internally from an old story still wants to become resolved. For the longest time, I’d catch myself reacting—sometimes with anger, sometimes with sadness—and immediately think, “Ugh, here I go again. Why am I still like this? Will I ever be free of this HumanDamage?!" But as I shared earlier, when I started applying the concept of Syntropy to Human Ecology and exploring, through the Lens of Syntropy, our Human Nature deeper, I began to see all these "trigger-happy" moments differently. Although some parts of Self that are tied to particular primary imprints do require the awareness of Self to protect it from further abuse, triggers, I’ve now learned, are not random glitches that need defending. They’re purposeful signals, nudging us to pay attention to what’s happening inside. They show up to help us understand which old scripts we’re still running and where we might be living out someone else’s story instead of our own.

Choosing to respond from our true selves rather than from conditioned patterns, naturally leads to greater psychological well-being and less internal psycho emotional conflict. With that, it all seems so simple right? When I started pausing in those heated moments and asking myself, “Is this mine?” something shifted. It’s like clearing out static so I can hear my own sovereign frequency more clearly.

See, I used to think sovereignty was about regaining control, but now I know it’s more about taking up response-ability for my words and choices and "my story", while honoring the choices and response-ability of others and "their journey". I now comfortably am re-enabled to own my own stories, but I train myself intentionally not to use that language (speaking on behalf of someone else and their experience as this often leads to people getting unnecessarily triggered), and so my viewpoint is languaged in a little more truth, you might say. "I can own my story, she is on her Journey". Although it hasn't happened for a good while (likely because it is no longer performing a function for my growth), when, in the past, someone was upset and told me how I “should” have acted, my old script would have been to try to fix things, even if it didn’t feel authentic. Now, I feel available to listen, acknowledge their perspective, and gently return the responsibility to its rightful owner. In that I am being with what is really real, and some may say I am upholding respect, for both of us. One thing I have reclaimed in this process is the genuineness of my authentic apology and saying "sorry". But I want to explore this another day because it's a segway that deserves speaking to in depth. True sovereignty, I believe, is neither rigid nor hierarchical; I cannot claim to be sovereign unless I equally recognize the sovereignty of others. Remember I mentioned the Trauma Triangle and the Syntropic Trinity? I did not come to all of this on my own, but I am grateful I received all so that I may translate for others. This quote from Sophia has kept coming up in my thoughts as I have been writing this.

So the Trinity, dear Souvereign, remembering Nature, Human Nature, Life and how it functions through Syntropy. By remembering Human Nature you remember the School of Sovereignty, that freedom and peace, and liberty are the normality experience of a human being on earth, and returning to that state is an amazing journey and feat in itself but also only natural as it is what we all come here to be ultimately and originally. Self-Love and the school thereof is what allows Sovereignty to become a real reembodied experience, as no one can return to freedom and peace without love for Self and deep love for all the shadow aspects of self (all the traumatised parts and dismembered aspects within the psychological landscape called the mind).

Self Love needs Will though, which is held in the School of Sovereignty. Self Love and the luster of it is only watery and wavy by itself. For reenabling of one's Nature, Love is not enough. You have to Will it. The trauma induced onto humanity is way to severe for "just Love" to come and wash away the pain, you have to be willing to go to the pain, open the pain, crack the wall and will access to the memories in order to truly be able to let love flow through that space within your being again. And sovereignty requires Syntropic Thinking as to remember how life functions is to remember your nature, which allows you to see how you are not living that by lingering in the past or safe guarding your future.

Choosing love over scripts means I now have re-enabled my ability to let self-love and acceptance guide my responses. "Love and Acceptance" is what opens the door to real freedom—a place of inner peacefulness where I’m not constantly at war with myself or archetypal characters in my mind. All that said, re-enabling one's nature is not about getting rid of triggers altogether (honestly, I’m not sure that’s possible), but about relating to them from a place of Syntropy. And we need our Will engaged in for that process to work, and so, each time I pause, checke in, and choose a more loving response, I feel and become a little more free, a little bit more Sovereign and Authentically me.

To me living authentically in Syntropy is about letting go of the need to perform or protect, and instead, showing up as I am—messy, imperfect, but real and contributing with lovingkindness to the growth and regeneration of others and their mindgardens. As the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” voices have faded into the background, a quieter, more peaceful sense of self has become accessible. It was there all along. I call it our Original Blueprint, the Original Innocence, our inner place of Freedom. The real gift of healing old patterns is simply leading oneself to more presence and one more from the Syntropic Sayings: "Love and acceptance leads to Freedom."

Getting rid of the Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda People, once and for all....

I mentioned this already, and yet, we all know that the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” people actually don't exist. So, if you ever catch yourself with the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” crowd, remember: you have a choice, through your Will. You can gently return to your own center, receive what’s being offered without resistance, and let discomfort guide you toward deeper growth. This is the heart of Syntropic Living—where sovereignty is about showing up, staying true, and trusting that everyone, including you (and especially your cells) , is capable of navigating their own journey Home, to within, and we all benefit from having and training our cells into the authentic qualities of a sacred witness. And for the real work with Syntropy, I imagine someone who can guide us, with real human words, spoken, audible, meaningful, insightful, helping us remind our cells of how to re-enable our Nature, oh, wait... I am talking about me! ... YAY!

Hey, reach out anytime, leave a comment, or have a look at my www.souvereignsharing.net redone up down inside out website. I hope you enjoyed my creative Syntropic outburst that was coming through for me. I pray it delivered a rightful message to you.

In (Gods) grace and Lovingkindness,

Souvereign